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Am I Shallow or Just Picky?!?

I was having a conversation with one of my lady friends the other night and this topic came up that we thought would be a fun one to explore.  That being the difference between being shallow in what we each thought of the opposite sex.

You see someone close to my friend said to her, most likely jokingly, that she was shallow in what she wanted in a male partner.  And I must admit I am fairly specific in what I am seeking in a woman.

So the question does come up that if I am picky in what I find attractive in a woman does that make me shallow?  According to Wikipedia, since we all know this is the most accurate site on the web for information, defines Shallow as “Having little depth; significantly less deep than wide.”


I can then say if I like a woman of a certain body type, a certain ethnicity, a certain age range, and a certain personality type then that is what I like.  If my friend likes a guy a certain way then that is just what she likes.  


Thus, when someone approaches me or her that isn’t that way then, to me, means that is just not going to be a match.  Thus, I am picky.  But to be called “shallow” does make me wonder.  


Does this mean I should (and yes I am now should-ing on myself) open the ranges more?  Or not?  I have to wonder about that.  


If any of you can relate please let me know.  They seem to be synonymous with each other, yet the connotation is quite different when one looks at it.  


I have had a similar thought to the word manipulation.  If one is called a manipulator that seems like a very bad person.  Yet, don’t parents manipulate their children to do what the parent wants them to do and we just call that good parenting.  


Although, this topic is not about manipulation.  It is one on being shallow or being just picky.  I have to wonder what other words in the English language have this kind of meaning yet can be reworded to another term synonymous and get the exact same meaning?!?


Happy Love to everyone.


Kevin A. Dunlap


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Kevin A Dunlap has been self-employed since 1999. He is an author, and professional speaker. He specializes with creating innovating techniques to motivate and inspire people to achieve more in what they want in their careers and jobs.

Kevin Dunlap

Kevin A Dunlap is a business and life coach specializing in helping people discover their desires and to help them build a game plan in taking the next steps in their life. He is the author of the books Designing Your Own Destiny and The Winner's Code: Secrets of the Winner's Mindset.

Kevin is also the producer of the podcast Life's Little Lessons where he interviews entrepreneurs from all over the world.

He is a professional speaker and trainer. He has been known to talk at multiple entrepreneurial functions.

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