This morning after reading a friend’s blog about marriage and ever lasting love I felt inspired to write about my life and the recent changes that have occurred for me.
For over 5 years I have had a best friend, confidant, and buddy that happens to be of the opposite gender. She has been more like the sister I never had and in all honesty will never have in reality. We have gone on a few road trips and have spent a few nights visiting each other as we now live 4 hours apart.
I fully understand to some people that they may not understand how to people of nearly the same age and even birthdays which are only 5 days apart can hang out with each other and not be tempted to cross the line into a more of a romantic relationship.
The funny thing about our relationship is that we started off being paired together as buddies in a 3 month long personal growth class. From day 1 we went into the attitude of friendship. We grew into what I call “self adopted siblings”. As with any normal brother and sister relationship we would disagree on things, we would agree on things. We would turn to each other for support especially in relationships. Who else to ask for advice on a woman than your slightly younger sister. The same for her when asking for guy advice.
When visiting her in AZ or when she comes to Vegsas for a day we would want to spend the precious few hours together and would end up crashing. Usually sharing a bed as that is what a visiting relative would do when there is nowhere else to sleep. And I do get it that if one of us was in a relationship that may seem awkward to the other person.
However, now that my best friend, my buddy, my sister has just started a new relationship yesterday. She was stating that when she comes to visit she wouldn’t be able to spend the night here, or if we were to go on a road trip together (e.g. go to Utah Shakespeare Festival) we would have to find other ways for accommodations.
Even though that may seem minor, especially when respecting the other person’s new relationship partner, it still gives me a feeling of the friendship dynamic is on a change. It’s like the first step in having a best friend who is about to get married now changes how you hang out together (regardless if that friend is same or opposite gender).
Over the years I have had a number of friends who have moved on. This may be them getting engaged or it could mean that they have moved out of town. Knowing this, to me, is a first sign or first step of big changes coming up in the months ahead.
I do wish my buddy the best and I will love her forever as the sister I know she is.
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